Fever Fears
We’re talking about fever fears on The Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia’s health tip this week!
Julie Kardos, MD and Naline Lai, MD
© 2015 Two Peds in a Pod®
We’re talking about fever fears on The Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia’s health tip this week!
Julie Kardos, MD and Naline Lai, MD
© 2015 Two Peds in a Pod®
Nearly all parents of overweight preschoolers and most parents of obese kids are unaware their children are classified as such , say researchers at New York University and two other medical centers. Click here for Happy Healthy Kids‘ interview with Dr. Kardos on the subject.
Julie Kardos, MD with Naline Lai, MD
©2015 Two Peds in a Pod®
Just in time for Field Day and pool openings, today we provide sunburn protection information.
Hot!
Pictured is a kid with a second degree burn. No, this burn wasn’t caused by hot water or by touching the stove, but by the sun. A sunburn is still a burn, even if it was caused by sunlight.
Treat sunburn the same as you would any burn:
Preventing sunburn is much easier, more effective, and less painful than treating sunburn.
What is SPF? Which one should be applied to children?
Why does the bottle of sunscreen say to ask the doctor about applying sunscreen to babies under 6 months of age?
Which brand of sunscreen is best for babies and kids?
Remember when we used to call sunscreen lotion “suntan lotion,” and tolerating red, blistering shoulders was considered a small price to pay for a tan? Live and learn.
Julie Kardos, MD with Naline Lai, MD
rev ©2015 Two Peds in a Pod®
In honor of Mother’s Day, teach your children the time-honored way to get themselves out of a bad situation: Blame everything on mom.
If your child realizes that she’d rather not attend a particular party or other social event, have her say:“I can’t go- my mom won’t let me.”
If your teen is at a friend’s house or party, is uncomfortable and wants to leave, but does not want the other kids to know his discomfort (such as in the presence of alcohol or drugs) have him text or call you and say a predetermined code, such as: “Oh, my mom wanted me to check in with her at (fill in the current time, whatever it is)”. Then, have him say: “I can’t believe it! She says she has to come get me now!” Remember, Moms, do not ask questions if you hear or read: “I’m checking in like you said I had to.” Just go rescue your child!
Does your child need a reason not to try smoking? Tell him to say: “Are you kidding? My mom can sniff out when I forget to brush my teeth. She would kill me if I came home smelling like smoke. Or at the very least she would ground me for life!”
Do your kids already blame a bad hair day on Mom? A forgotten lunch on Mom? Oversleeping an alarm clock on Mom? That’s all okay as long as they know to blame Mom when it really counts.
Happy Mother’s Day
Naline Lai, MD and Julie Kardos, MD
©2015 Two Peds in a Pod®
Recently, Dr. Lai was so excited to see Flonase in the local pharmacy that she texted all of the providers in our practice with the news. Flonase (fluticasone), a nose spray allergy treatment, is the latest allergy medication to go over-the-counter. Now, nearly every allergy medication that we wrote prescriptions for a decade ago is now available to kids over-the-counter.
As you and your child peer around the pharmacy through itchy blurry eyes, the displays for allergy medications can be overwhelming. Should you chose the medication whose ads feature a bubbly seven-year-old girl kicking a soccer ball in a field of grass, or the medication whose ads feature a bubbly ten-year-old boy roller blading? Its it better to buy a “fast” acting medication or medication that promises your child “relief?”
A guide to sorting out your medication choices:
Oral antihistamines: Oral antihistamines differ mostly by how long they last, how well they help itchiness, and their side effect profile. During an allergic reaction, antihistamines block one of the agents responsible for producing swelling and secretions in your child’s body, called histamine. Prescription antihistamines are not necessarily “stronger.” In fact, at this point there are very few prescription antihistamines. The “best” choice is the one that alleviates your child’s symptoms the best. As a good first choice, if another family member has had success with one antihistamine, then genetics suggest that your child may respond as well to the same medicine. Be sure to check the label for age range and proper dosing.
Allergy eye drops: Your choices for over-the-counter antihistamine drops include ketotifen fumarate (eg. Zatidor and Alaway). For eyes, drops tend to work better than oral medication. Avoid products that contain vasoconstrictors (look on the label or ask the pharmacist) because these can cause rebound redness after 2-3 days and do not treat the actual cause of the allergy symptoms. Contact lenses can be worn with some allergy eye drops- check the package insert, and avoid wearing contacts when the eyes look red.
Allergy nose sprays: Simple nasal saline helps flush out allergens and relieves nasal congestion from allergies. As we mentioned above, Flonase, which used to be available by prescription only, is a steroid allergy nose spray that is quite effective at eliminating symptoms. It takes about a week until your child will notice the benefits of this medicine. Even though this medicine is over-the-counter, check with your child’s pediatrician if you find that your child needs to continue with this spray for more than one allergy season of the year. Day in and day out use can lead to thinning of the nasal septum. Avoid the use of nasal decongestants (e.g., Afrin, Neo-Synephrine) for more than 2-3 days because a rebound runny nose called rhinitis medicamentosa may occur.
Oral Decongestants such as phenylephrine or pseudoephedrine can help decrease nasal stuffiness. This is the “D” in “Claritin D” or “Allegra D.” However, their use is not recommended in children under age 6 years because of potential side effects such as rapid heart rate, increased blood pressure, and sleep disturbances.
Some of the above mentioned medicines can be taken together and some cannot. Read labels carefully for the active ingredient. Do not give more than one oral antihistamine at a time. In contrast, most antihistamine eye drops and nose sprays can be given together along with an oral antihistamine.
If you are still lost, call your child’s pediatrician to tailor an allergy plan specific to her needs.
The best medication? Get the irritating pollen off your child. Have your allergic child wash her hands and face as soon as she comes in from playing outside so she does not rub pollen into her eyes and nose. Rinse outdoor particles off your child’s body with nightly showers. Filter the air when driving in the car and at home by running the air conditioner and closing the windows to prevent the “great” outdoors from entering your child’s nose.
Naline Lai MD and Julie Kardos, MD
© 2015 Two Peds in a Pod®
A thrilling moment in the office is when a mom of a patient shares with me that she is pregnant again. I say, “Wonderful!” What better gift to give your firstborn than a sibling! And I love being a part of good news! As an older sister myself, as a mother of three children, and as a pediatrician, I know the net result of adding another child to the family is positively fabulous.
Although the news is good, sometimes parents are anxious. Here are some suggestions of how to prepare your child for a younger sibling:
At best, everything in the past occurred yesterday, and everything in the future will occur tomorrow. So in general, there is no magic moment to announce a forthcoming new baby. A few weeks ahead of time, simply start talking about “when a baby comes to live with us.” Don’t expect your child to really believe you until you walk into the house with the baby. And don’t be surprised if your firstborn asks, “When is it leaving?” Kids this age do not understand the idea of “forever” or “permanent.”
Parents often feel guilty about bringing a second baby into the home. They worry they will not have as much time for their firstborn. Well, here’s one secret. Newborns aren’t all that demanding. Unlike with your first born, you will never have the time or urge to stare endlessly at your second born while she sleeps.
By the second time around, you will realize that feeding, changing, and washing a newborn take up relatively little time. Your firstborn will likely continue to be the center of attention. She is, after all, much more interesting now that she can pretend and play simple games. Believe me when I tell you that you CAN play Candyland® and breastfeed an infant at the same time. You CAN burp an infant while reading aloud to a toddler. You CAN change a diaper while pretending you and your toddler are wild jungle animals. You CAN make a formula bottle while telling a terrifically exciting story to your toddler.
The best part of a gift, to a toddler, is opening it, NOT what’s in it. So don’t worry about trying to make sure your older child gets a gift for every gift the new baby gets. Just allow your toddler to open all the baby’s gifts (if she wants to) because “babies don’t know how to open presents, but big kids do!” Also, newborns don’t care who holds them so visitors are a perfect chance to hand off the baby and get on the floor and play with your toddler. To a toddler, parents are the most important and interesting people in the world. Even if ten people walk in to visit the baby, your toddler will not be jealous if YOU are the one playing with her.
In addition to the above tips, if your eldest asks why you need to hold/feed/care for the baby “so much,” just explain that it’s the baby’s turn. Then reinforce how glad you are that your eldest is able to talk, feed herself, play with toys, and maybe use the potty. Remind her that her ability to be independent make her more similar to Mommy and Daddy than to a baby.
Finally, realize whether your firstborn embraces her younger sibling with open arms or pretends that the new baby does not exist, you will have plenty of love to go around. Your heart is big enough for everyone. Dr. Lai tucks each of her three children in at night with the words, “I love you more than anyone in the universe.”
Truth be told, no one will make your younger child laugh as loud and long as her older sibling. Also, older babies are much more interesting than newborns. Even “luke warm” older siblings will warm up as time progresses and the baby becomes more interactive. You will appreciate this the most when your younger child becomes a toddler. He will find his older brother or sister so entertaining that he will generally stay near his older sibling. Your younger child will not be as apt to wander out of a room if his sibling is around. While you will not have a baby sitter for a while, you will have a tattle-teller.
In the meantime, tell lots of “when you were a baby” stories to your older child. Toddlers are egocentric (they all think the world revolves around them) and they will LOVE being the main character in your stories. Bring out baby pictures and videos of your firstborn to share. Be sure to point out how far she has come and all the great things she can do now as a big kid.
Don’t feel pressure to “get everything done” before the new baby arrives. Potty training for the oldest can wait (it’s not that glamorous anyway). You don’t have take your oldest child out of the crib (the baby is in a bassinet for a couple months) and your oldest’s teeth won’t pop out because you haven’t weaned the pacifier.
I end with a personal story:
When I was pregnant with my twins, many of our friends commented to us about our firstborn son, “Boy, you are really going to rock his world.”
HIS world, I would think to myself. How about OUR world?
In order to prepare him for his transition from “only child”to “big brother” we emphasized to our son (who was three at the time) that most older brothers get only ONE baby. Our son would be getting TWO babies! He was excited about having two instead of one. For years afterwards, whenever he heard about a pregnant aunt, friend, or neighbor, his first question was always, “Oh, how many babies is she having?”
Out of the mouths of babes….
Julie Kardos, MD and Naline Lai, MD
©2015 Two Peds in a Pod®
It is never easy to break bad news, and it can be especially difficult to break bad news to our children. Bereavement counselor Amy Keiper-Shaw helps parents give advice on how to talk to your children if someone they love is dying.
While we all try to live our best and happiest lives, one day, something bad will invariably happen to us and/or our families. Maybe a grandparent or a pet is so ill they have been told they are going to die, or a family member has been diagnosed with a terminal illness. Are you and your child prepared to communicate effectively during these tough times? Here are some suggestions to help you talk to your child when death is a possibility.
“One must talk little and listen much.”—African proverb
Parents, remember this:
It can be challenging to be the bearer of bad news, but keep in mind that there are others who can assist with this. Asking for help from a social worker, counselor, a trusted friend, or spiritual adviser can help to facilitate this conversation, as well as connect families to resources in the community.
Amy Keiper-Shaw, LCSW
©2015 Two Peds in a Pod®
Amy Keiper-Shaw is a licensed grief counselor who holds a Masters Degree in clinical social work from the University of Pennsylvania. For over a decade she has served as a bereavement counselor to a hospice program and facilitates a bereavement camp for children. She directs Handsholdinghearts.com, a resource for children who have experienced a significant death in their lives.
As we prepare for a session on child development and behavior at Homefront: Family Preservation Center, a center for temporary emergency housing in Mercer County, New Jersey, we realize that we haven’t shared with you in a little while one of our most popular podcasts.
Join us as we talk about tips on toddler discipline:
Julie Kardos, MD and Naline Lai, MD
©2009, 2015 Two Peds in a Pod®
Our favorite pediatrician gardener returns today to jump start our spring gardens….
How can I get my kids to eat vegetables? I hear this again and again in the office. For kids, nurturing plants fosters a positive association with vegetables and a pride as they see their seedlings grow. Of course they will be more willing to taste them! Parents need easy economical ways to plant vegetables, best met by directly sowing seeds into the well prepared ground.
Seeds are hope in a miniscule package, and we can all use a little hope that winter is truly over. Now is the best time to seek them out in catalogs and garden centers. But look beyond garden centers. I’ve seen them in grocery stores, hardware stores and even boutiques. Which ones to buy? I love growing tomatoes, peppers, and eggplants, but all grow best if you start indoors 6-8 weeks before the last frost in your area and this requires a good bit of pre-planning. Which seeds will most likely germinate and when can you plant them?
First, some basics: Find a spot for your garden which receives at least 6 hours of direct sun and good soil. Prepping your soil could be a semester long class and for 90% of us, good soil is NOT where your grass is currently growing. Starting is easiest in the fall, (see how to start an organic garden with your kids) but it is not too late. Neophytes start small, and seek out resources. Every state has a cooperative extension system run by master gardeners that have seminars and can offer advice. Gardening websites such as www.planetnatural.com and books such as Square Foot Gardening, by Mel Bartholomew and Grow Vegetables: Gardens, Yards, Balconies, Roof Terraces, by Alan Buckingham can help.
Each seed has an optimal sprouting (aka, germination) temperature. Go much below this temp and your seeds will rot. Average temperatures vary slightly year to year, so many gardeners rely on phenology, the science of using nature’s signals to assess when the climate is right for planting. Use other plants in your yard as a guide to when to start planting. Peas should be planted when you see forsythia blooming. Swiss chard, beets, and the other spring veggies mentioned below can be planted whenever leaves appear on lilac bushes.
Peas: Peas are the first things to go into the ground in the spring. If you are short on space, choose a vining variety and grow them up a trellis. (I love the trellis products from Gardener’s Supply Company.) Your kids will love eating sugar snap peas right off the plant. They are a great source of protein (¾ cup supplies more than an egg), and vitamin C (serves as an immune booster, improves skin health, bone health and improves iron absorption).
Swiss Chard: If you must plant one seed this year, let it be chard. Its leaves contain a good amount of vitamin C, calcium and iron. Other greens have more, but chard grows readily from seed, and doesn’t mind the heat, cool weather, drought or rainy periods- excellent for indolent gardeners and beginners alike. Once established, you can pick the outer leaves and it will continue to grow all the way until frost creeps in. One gorgeous variety, Bright Lights, has red, orange and yellow edible stems. You can eat young chard leaves like lettuce, but once mature, it is better cooked. Try chard in place of spinach.
Beets: Beets are chard’s cousin, but with less leaf and more root. Beets are high in fiber and vitamin C. In addition, nutrition research has shown them to contain betaine, a compound with blood pressure regulating, antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties. It is the same compound that likely gives the eater’s urine a red tinge the following day. You might want to warn your kids that the temporary color change is harmless. Call your physician if it persists. I have tossed beets in paper thin slices in a salad as well as roasted or steamed them. Cooked beet roots have a sweet earthy taste (nothing like those pickled things you find on your supermarket shelves), and are great dressed with olive oil . Beets come in gorgeous colors. Besides the conventional red, there are golden and candy striped varieties. Personally, I like botanical interest’s gourmet blend. You can even use the greens of beets in the same recipes you use chard. But unlike chard, your supply of beet greens will not continually regenerate.
Lettuce and arugula: Eat that salad and vitamin C (boosts immunity, is essential for skin and bone health, and improves iron absorption) , beta carotene (promotes eye health), and fiber (need we state the obvious?) are your benefits. The darker the leaf, the higher the nutritional content. Romaine has 5-10 times more of these vitamins than iceberg. Arugula has 3-4 times more than the romaine. And your friendly garden center or seed catalog has even darker more exotic varieties. Why plant conventional greens when you can have restaurant quality Flashy Butter Gem, Outredgeous, and Merlot lettuces from the Baker Creek Heirloom Seed catalog? Red flecked Freckles romaine is one of my family’s favorites. This year, I found a new red version of arugula, Dragon’s Tongue (Botanical Interests seed company, available in many garden centers) that I can’t wait to add to this year’s salad bowl. Remember the names of the different lettuce while serving your kids. Names make the lettuce much more interesting to the children. Pine Tree Garden Seeds, one of my favorite sources, has great blends of lettuce varieties all in one packet. But beware, lettuce has a limited growing season. After 3 weeks of picking it gets tough and bitter. And when the hot weather hits, it stops growing and produces seeds. We work around this by planting small crops every three weeks for a continuous supply (called successive sowing). Plant the last crop in the shade of another plant (maybe under your pea trellis) to extend it’s season. Buy plenty of lettuce seed, as you can start planting it again in August, after the heat of summer.
Carrots: Most kids love carrots. They are loaded with vitamin A, beta carotene and other antioxidants. But did you know you can grow purple and near black carrots? Cosmic Purple (from High Mowing Organic Seed Company) , and Pusa Asita (Baker Creek) black carrots are dark in color, and likely even higher in those antioxidants. Carrots do best in loose soil, with added sand. The seeds are miniscule. Look for seeds attached to biodegradable tape for easy planting. Try to seed without the tape, and hundreds of tiny carrot plants will emerge simultaneously. You will be stuck painstakingly plucking out plants in order to prevent overcrowding.
Radishes: Most kids don’t love radishes immediately (they have a spicy taste), but they are easy to grow and mature in as little as 3 weeks. So, they are a good veggie to grow for those who need immediate gratification. They will keep the kids’ attention while the rest of the plants are maturing. Tuck 20- 30 seeds away and watch how fast they grow. Eat up- those spicy little radishes contain vitamin C and folate.
Green onions: I was delighted to find these were so easy to grow by seed, because anything in the allium family (think garlic, shallots) repels insects, deer and rabbits. So you get a veggie and a mini fence in one. It is possible that onions also repel changes that cause cancer. They contain high levels of quercetin, a compound suggested in some studies to be associated with lower rates of cancer. They are loaded with antioxidants, and the anti-blood clotting and anti-inflammatory organosulfur compounds.
Cilantro: As an ethnic cook, I can’t live without this stuff, so good thing it has become a weed in my yard. You need one pack of seeds to get this phenomena started. I sprinkle its seeds (which are, incidentally, the spice coriander) at the base of other plants as it can tolerate some shade. If you pick the leaves off the top, the plant will become bushy and loaded with leaves.
Sprinkle 8-10 seeds every three weeks starting at that lilac leafing time, because cilantro, like lettuce, gets old, tough, and goes to seed after a couple of weeks. (let it: those seeds will drop and then you too will have it all over your yard! ) Like onions, it is loaded with quercetin and antioxidants.
So if you have spring fever (who doesn’t?), and want a new way to get your kids to eat more produce, start planting now. Get to a garden center or check out a seed website mentioned above, and let yourself be carried away by the hope that lies within a seed!
Marion Mass MD, FAAP
©2015 Two Peds in a Pod®
In practice for 17 years, Marion Mass MD, FAAP currently works at Jellinek Pediatrics in Doylestown, PA and serves on the Wellness Council of the Central Bucks School District, PA. Produce from her kids’ garden garnishes the plates of many local families as well as the plates of the restaurant Puck. All garden profits benefit Relay for Life. See her recent interview in Happy Healthy Kids.
As a follow up to our tired teen post, we’re posting the handout we gave out at the Community Conversations Workshop last week at Council Rock South High School, Holland, PA. This handout is designed for teens to read:
A teen’s guide to healthy sleep habits
Most teens need 8-10 hours of sleep per night to be healthy, perform optimally, and act safely.
All teens should be able to get themselves up, washed, dressed, fed, lunch packed, and out the door for school WITHOUT a parent’s help.
Establish a bedtime routine which includes an adult family member — even if you just say “goodnight.”
Routinely give yourself time before falling asleep to clear your mind and relax your body. Meditate or pray.
Avoid computer/TV/phone/screen time 30 minutes before going to bed and turning out the light.
If your homework is taking too long, consider leaving your phone in another room or turning if off so that you are not interrupted by texts. People work more efficiently when they are not constantly interrupted. This will give you more time to sleep.
Associate your bed with sleeping. Do not do homework, play video games, or use your phone in bed.
Avoid caffeine, or do not drink any past noon. Caffeine stays in your body for 24 hours, which means that even a morning coffee or energy drink can inhibit falling asleep at night.
If you cannot wake up in time for school, gradually move your bedtime earlier, by 15 minutes every few nights, until you sleep long enough that you wake up feeling refreshed.
If you just can’t readjust your schedule to fall asleep earlier, check with your doctor if short term melatonin is fine for you.
Sleeping in too long on weekends can throw your weekday schedule off and make Monday mornings dreadful. If you do sleep in on weekends to catch up on sleep, try not to sleep more than a couple of hours past your week day wake up time.
Tired teens:
Are involved in more car crashes
Perform less well in school
Have difficulty paying attention and focusing in class and on homework
Suffer from more depression and mental health issues
Are more likely to become obese
Julie Kardos, MD and Naline Lai, MD
©2015 Two Peds in a Pod®