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How to check for scoliosis: as easy as 1-2-3

Ever wonder what the school nurse or your kid’s pediatrician is looking for during a scoliosis screen? Here, in three steps, you can also monitor your child. If you are concerned, see your child’s doctor.

And dat is how to check dee spine!

Naline Lai, MD and Julie Kardos, MD

October 10, 2011 by twopedsinapod

When your back “throws you a curve”: Scoliosis

I remember during my middle school days in New Jersey lining up once a year at the school nurse’s office, feeling awkward and nervous. Not only was the nurse checking our height and weight as she did every year in grade school, but now she was going to check our backs for some mysterious entity called “scoliosis.” Where I live now in Pennsylvania, many school nurses also screen students for scoliosis, a curve in the spine.

Although pediatricians check children’s spines for scoliosis throughout childhood, school based screens occur during pre-teen and teenage years. This timing is appropriate for school screens because most cases of idiopathic scoliosis, scoliosis with no known cause, occur during the rapid growth spurt of puberty. Eight times more common in girls than boys, scoliosis is painless and often detectable only to health care providers; minor curves are neither obvious nor disfiguring. Caught early, scoliosis can be ameliorated or corrected before adulthood when it can lead to back pain, difficulty breathing and disfigurement.

Unlike what some parents think, scoliosis does not cause “bad posture.” Likewise, “bad posture” does not cause scoliosis.

Depending on the degree of the curve, a child with idiopathic scoliosis might be re-examined every 4-6 months, might get an x-ray of her spine, or her health care provider might refer her to an orthopedic doctor, a specialist who cares for kids with scoliosis. Kids whose spinal curves are severe or are likely to get worse may need bracing until they stop growing. At that point the chances of the curve continuing to increase is low. Wearing a brace does not correct the curve; rather, it prevents any further curvature. Scoliosis braces are much more inconspicuous now than in the past, and can be hidden easily under clothing. Some children require surgery to correct a severe curve.

So, while it may cause an awkward middle school moment, scoliosis screening can actually have far reaching consequences for the future.

Next up: stay tuned for a “do-it-yourself “scoliosis screen.

Julie Kardos, MD and Naline Lai, MD

October 5, 2011 by twopedsinapod

“Because I said so?” – getting your kids to listen

While many good books have been written on the subject of how to get your kids to listen to you, today we boil this topic down to a few key sticky points. The goal is to make sure your child hears, “Please clean your room,” as well as,“Let’s go get ice cream.”

Here are ways to make requests which yield results:

Validate feelings, then make the request. For example, “I know you are tired. Please pick up your clothes from the floor and put them in the hamper so I can wash a load with the soccer shorts you need for tomorrow.”

Give kids a time parameter for getting a task done so they do not feel you are interrupting their fun. For example, “Dinner is in one-half hour. In the next half an hour, I expect your toys to be cleaned up.”

Make a request sandwich. Use two positive statements with the request in between. For example, “I like how creative you’re being. Remember the crayons need to be put away before bedtime. I can’t wait to see your finished picture!”

Give warnings about transitions. For example, “We are having so much fun at the playground. We will need to leave in fifteen minutes.” And then, “We will leave in five minutes. Do your last thing.” And finally, “We need to leave now.”

Use the phrase, “I expect” rather than “I want” For example, “I expect your homework to be done by dinner time,” rather than, “I want you to do your homework before dinner time.”

Stay on topic. For example, your child is trying to get out of taking out the garbage and starts giving you a multitude of reasons for not completing the task. He also starts to prattle on about his upcoming baseball game. You say, “I understand you feel it’s your brother’s turn to take out the garbage. I know you would rather continue playing your computer game. I will listen to you talk about the game later. Right now I expect you to contribute to our household by taking out the garbage.” Try to keep your own frustration out of your voice.

Don’t nag. Kids, like all people, get irked by nags. Repetitive nagging only gives them practice at ignoring you.

Remember where your child is developmentally. A thirteen year old can be told to eat after others are served at a restaurant. A thirteen month old can not.

Make eye contact when making a request. Don’t text and talk. Show your children you respect them as people.

A special note about bribes and threats: By three years old, most kids understand bribes and threats. Sounds terrible, doesn’t it? However, both can be useful when used sparingly. For example, you could offer to take your child out for ice cream, or a bike ride, or a special event, in exchange for cleaning his particularly horrendously messy room. But bribes used too often create a kid who expects to get “paid” for performing reasonable and customary personal and household tasks.

Likewise, threatening a negative consequence must also be used sparingly or else you will end up with a resentful child who will have even more motivation to not listen to you. Remember to take away “extras” rather than essentials. For example, failing to listen may result in losing a finite amount of TV/videogame time. Do NOT threaten to take away eating dinner, reading with your child before bedtime or going to her best friend’s birthday party. Remember to follow through on the consequence immediately. Giving empty threats or putting off threats put you into the “nag” category.

Most importantly, during any ice cream outing, bike ride, or special trip to the park, regardless if it was a planned event or a bribe, flip the table and take the time to listen to what your child has to say.

Julie Kardos, MD and Naline Lai, MD

Special thanks for input from Kim Ross. A first grade teacher for the past 19 years, Mrs. Ross holds a Bachlor’s degree in Early Childhood Elementary education and a Masters degree in Educational Psychology, both from Temple University. Mom of two, she also is a Certified Parenting Educator.

September 28, 2011 by twopedsinapod

Hear ye, hear ye: how can I tell if my child hears?

I just watched “The Miracle Worker” with my oldest son. This classic 1962 movie depicts Helen Keller, who was deaf and blind, struggling to understand language, with the help and supreme patience of her determined teacher Annie Sullivan.

As I watched the movie, I was reminded about how children depend on their senses to learn about the world. Starting today, Two Peds in a Pod will bring you periodic posts about the early development of senses. We start with hearing.

Unlike eyesight, which is limited at birth, babies are usually born with normal hearing. Before leaving the hospital after birth, or by two weeks of age, your newborn should receive a hearing test. Then, at every well child check, your child’s health care provider will ask you questions to confirm your child’s hearing remains the same.

Even though they are unable to localize where sound is coming from, newborns will startle to new or sudden sounds and their eyes will open wider in response to the sound of your voice. All babies babble, even deaf ones, but language progression will stop in children who cannot hear. By six months, kids usually babble one syllable at a time. By nine months, children will produce syllables that sound like whichever language they hear the most. At this point they should also respond to their name. Babies who fail to meet these milestones may do so because they cannot hear.

For older kids, hearing screening may be conducted in schools or the pediatrician’s office. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends formal hearing screens starting at four years old. These screening tests can detect subtle hearing loss that parents did not notice. Kids who fail the screen should have a more comprehensive hearing evaluation by an audiologist. Many kinds of hearing loss are either reversible or manageable. The earlier the diagnosis the better.

Sometimes speech, behavior, or attention problems are secondary to hearing difficulties. School aged children may mispronounce words because they cannot hear sounds clearly. These children commonly do not distinguish well between the “s,” “ch,” and “sh” sounds (please click here to review language development). Symptoms attributed to Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder such as difficulty focusing or inattentiveness may actually result from hearing loss. Some kids who “just don’t listen” to adults simply can’t hear well enough to follow directions.

As your child’s hearing loss progresses, you may notice your child’s language regresses, or that your child turns the volume up on the TV. Your child may accuse you of mumbling or ask you to often repeat questions. Although a common myth, a child who talks loudly is not necessarily deaf. After all, a child does not need to raise his own voice in order to understand himself.

Finally, I should mention signs of “selective hearing loss.” Many parents describe this form of “hearing loss” to me in the office. In these cases, a child does not hear her mom say “Clean your room,” yet hears her mom whisper “Let’s go out for ice cream.”

We address the topic of listening, as opposed to hearing, in our next post.

Julie Kardos, MD with Naline Lai, MD
©2011 Two Peds in a Pod®

September 24, 2011 by twopedsinapod

Beware the bewitching hour

Every day across the United States, sometime between 4:00 to 5:00 PM, millions of small children are crying and whining. Welcome to the bewitching hour.

In our offices it’s bedlam during that hour. The phones start ringing off the hook: daycare called mom to report Johnny has a fever, Mildred came off the school bus bleeding from a gash from a flying lunch box, and help, the coach won’t let Mary play lacrosse until her school form is signed.

Meanwhile, you are trying to get home from work/ fix dinner/ walk a cranky baby/order new cleats for Jared, or all of the above, likely at the same time.

Resign yourself. Even if your kids are well-fed, napped and had a great play date that day, the bewitching hour can still happen. Think of it as Colic: Part Two. Some think colic is related to the difficulty of young nervous systems trying to adjust to nightfall. We’re not sure anyone ever grows out of that stage! We just hide our crankiness better as adults. When you think about it, it’s a hard point of day for adults, even childless ones. After a full day around the house or at work, you’d rather curl up on the couch and read a good book than grapple with, well, anything. Remember those ads for bath soap? “Calgon take me away.”

I remember when my oldest was a toddler. At the bewitching hour I’d stare out the window looking for my husband’s car as he drove home from work. We’d have conversations like this, “Daddy should be home any minute. Let’s go to the window and see. No Daddy? Let’s read a book on the porch and watch for him. No Daddy? Then let’s move to the lawn. I’m sure he will be in the next car.”

Your best defense against your desperation at this time: drill down to the basics: eat, sleep, drink, pee, poop. Make sure they are all going okay entering the bewitching hour- for your kids and for YOU! You may be too harried to notice that you did not drink anything for hours and a dehydrated dad will feel like he’s hallucinating during the bewitching hour.

When my oldest was three and my younger child was one, I surprised the furnace repair guy by cooking dinner at two in the afternoon. The crock pot is your friend. A crock pot dinner will cook itself. Do everything possible: cook the dinner, set the table, give the baths and make your phone calls before the hour hits.

If you are picking the kids up from daycare, make sure you have something healthy for them and yourself to munch on in case everyone is starving. Alternatively, pack a dinner for the daycare teachers to give to your children before you pick them up. These strategies will prevent your children’s hunger from fueling the bewitching hour. Additionally, having a healthy snack prevents them from becoming so full from goldfish crackers that they later refuse to eat their meal. Even if your kids eat dinner before you, they can join the adults at the dinner table and eat some fruit or veggies or have a cup of milk, allowing for some quality family time.

Several years ago during a particularly horrific bewitching hour, Dr. Kardos’s three children melted down simultaneously. In desperation, she grabbed the video camera for some footage of one five-year-old and twin two-year-olds all tantruming at the same time. Now the replay is as entertaining to her family as the funniest of America’s Funniest Videos. Sometimes you have to use humor and remind yourself that you might, one day in the not so far off future, miss this time.

And don’t forget. Just as you are questioning whether or not you will go insane… there are times when the bewitching hour will go smoothly… at least until you wake up!

Naline Lai, MD with Julie Kardos, MD

September 12, 2011 by twopedsinapod

A message to our children: Don’t be afraid to reach for the sky

If you were around the New York area ten years ago on September 11, you know it was a beautiful crystal-clear day. It was the kind of day which made you gaze admiringly at the sky as you stepped out the door. No one knew that soon the sky over New York, Pennsylvania, and Washington, DC would be marred by the dark clouds of terrorist attacks. Many of your children were too young to remember much about the day, or perhaps they were not even born yet.

As the ten year anniversary of that tragic day approaches, we remind you of previous posts which may help your children digest the images they see in the media and the raw emotions of adults around them. Above all, don’t be afraid to discuss the day and assure your children that it’s still ok to reach for the sky:

Explaining Tragedy to Children
Books for helping children through bereavement
How to explain death to a young school aged child

This link from Common Sense Media may also help: Talking to your child about 9/11: What do you need to know?

Naline Lai, MD and Julie Kardos, MD

September 10, 2011 by twopedsinapod

A lovely surprise!

Special thanks to Lu Lu of YQY Jewelry for surprising us with a two peds in a pod necklace. Lu Lu, who custom handcrafts jewelry and is known for her distinctive woven silver basket designs modified her three peas in a pod necklace into two peds!

Naline Lai, MD and Julie Kardos, MD

September 5, 2011 by

It’s a gas! your young infant’s burps and farts

Gas is another topic most people don’t think much about until they have a newborn. Then suddenly gas becomes a huge source of parental distress, even though parents are not the ones with the gas. It’s the poor newborn baby who suffers, and as all parents know, our children’s suffering becomes OUR suffering.

So what to do?

First, I reassure you that ALL young babies are gassy. Yes, all. But some newborns are not merely fussy because of their gas. Some become fussy, ball up, grunt, turn red, wake up from a sound sleep, and scream because of their gas. In other words, some babies really CARE about their gas.

Remember, newborns spend nine months as a fetus developing in fluid, and have no experience with air until they take their first breath. Then they cry and swallow some air. Then they feed and swallow some air. Then they cry and swallow some more air. Eventually, some of the air comes up as a burp. To summarize: Living in Air=Gas Production.

Gas expelled from below comes from a different source. As babies drink formula or breast milk, some liquid in the intestines remains undigested, and the normal gut bacteria “eat” the food. The bacteria produce gas as a byproduct of their eating. Thus: a fart is produced.

The gas wants to escape, but young babies are not very good at getting out the gas. Newborns produce thunderous burps and expulsions out the other end. I still remember my bleary-eyed husband and I sitting on the couch with our firstborn. On hearing a loud eruption, we looked at each other and asked simultaneously, “Was that YOU?” Then looked at our son and asked “Was that HIM?”

Gas is a part of life. If your infant is feeding well, gaining weight adequately, passing soft mushy stools that are green, yellow, or brown but NOT bloody, white, or black (for more about poop, see our post The Scoop on Poop), then the grunting, straining, turning red, and crying with gas is harmless and does not imply that your baby has a belly problem or a formula intolerance. However, it’s hard to see your infant uncomfortable.

Here’s what to do if your young baby is bothered by gas:

Start feedings before your infant cries a long time from hunger. When infants cry from hunger, they swallow air. When a frantically hungry baby starts to feed, they will gulp quickly and swallow more air than usual. If your infant is wide awake crying and it’s been at least one or two hours from the last feeding, try to quickly start another feeding.
Burp frequently. If you are breastfeeding, watch the clock, breastfeed for five minutes, change to the other breast. As you change positions, hold her upright in attempt to elicit a burp, then feed for five more minutes on the second breast. Then hold your baby upright and try for a slightly longer burping session, and go return her to the first breast for at least five minutes, then back to the second breast if she still appears hungry. Now if she falls asleep nursing, she has had more milk from both breasts and some opportunities to burp before falling asleep.
If you are bottle feeding, experiment with different nipples and bottle shapes (different ones work better for different babies) to see which one allows your infant to feed without gulping too quickly and without sputtering. Try to feed your baby as upright as possible.
Hold your infant upright for a few minutes after feedings to allow for extra burps. If a burp seems stuck, lay her back down on her back for a minute and then bring her upright and try again.
To help expel gas from below, lay her on her back and pedal her legs with your hands. Give her tummy time when awake. Unlike you, a baby can not change position easily and may need a little help moving the gas out of their system.
If your infant is AWAKE after a feeding, place her prone (on her belly) after a feeding. Babies can burp AND pass gas easier in this position. PUT HER ONTO HER BACK if she starts to fall asleep or if you are walking away from her because she might fall asleep before you return to her. Remember, all infants should SLEEP ON THEIR BACKS unless your infant has a specific medical condition that causes your pediatrician to advise a different sleep position.
Parents often ask if changing the breast feeding mother’s diet or trying formula changes will help decrease the baby’s discomfort from gas. There is not absolute correlation between a certain food in the maternal diet and the production of gas in a baby. However, a nursing mom may find a particular food “gas inducing.” Remember that a nursing mom needs nutrients from a variety of foods to make healthy breast milk so be careful how much you restrict. Try any formula change for a week at a time and if there is no effect on gas, just go back to the original formula.
Do gas drops help? For flatulence, if you find that the standard, FDA approved simethecone drops (e.g. Mylicon Drops) help, then you can use them as the label specifies. If they do not help, then stop using them.

The good news? The discomfort from gas will pass. Gas discomfort typically peaks at six weeks and improves immensely by three months. At that point, even the fussiest babies tend to mellow. The next time your child’s gas will cause you distress won’t be until he becomes a preschooler and tells “fart jokes” at the dinner table in front of Grandma. Now THAT is a gas.

Julie Kardos, MD with Naline Lai, MD

September 3, 2011 by twopedsinapod

That bites: recognizing spider bites

Wondering what crawled into your child’s room and bit her in the middle of the night? If you see two little pinpricks side by side, it’s probably a spider. Spider fangs make two little bite marks. Unfortunately, by the time you examine it in the morning, the bite may be so puffy and red that the two marks are no longer visible. With the exception of the Black widow spider and the Brown recluse spider, most spider bites are harmless and cause only a little bit of irritation. Over-the-counter hydrocortisone 1% ointment, ice, and an analgesic such as acetaminophen or ibuprofen can take the edge off of the itch and/or pain.